Wednesday, March 7, 2012


I'm beginning to really like middle ground. Middle ground is relaxing. I'm liking compromise.
Lately, I've had to make a lot of compromises, and, I'm OK with that. 
I've been homeschooling for about 4 years now. Originally the idea to homeschool was my husband's. My first reaction was, "You're kidding, right?"
Turns out, he wasn't kidding. Homeschooling had been wonderful and hard. The truth is, it has been one of the hardest things I have ever done, but also one of the most rewarding. One of the best feelings in the world is teaching your child something and then watching them excel at it. Another side benefit of homeschooling is that the teacher (you) gets to learn right along with the kiddos. I really enjoyed that part. 
But lately, homeschooling hasn't been the joy that it once was. It's only been hard. With a infant to care for, and so much moving around, I feel like I haven't been able to give my older two girl's education the attention it deserves. Especially my middle girl. H- my oldest is more self motivated, but C isn't. She needs me to constantly work with her, and I unfortunately cannot make that, and all the other things I'm responsible for, happen, as of right now. 
And this is where the middle ground comes in. The compromise. My husband and I were pretty adamant that we didn't want to send the girls to public school for many and various reasons, but I didn't feel confident that I could provide their education with my very best attention at this time. However, by God's grace we found a wonderful little private school that teaches in the classical way (classical education is the way we have been teaching). They will start their new school this coming year. I am so relieved and happy that their education will be getting all the attention it deserves and we don't have to put them in public school. (I am NOT denigrating those who put there children in public school. It is just not what is best for our family.)
Another compromise that we have recently come to, is to buy a home while we are waiting for ours to be built. Originally we had planned for it to be built about 2 years ago, but because of a series of events we still are not ready to build. (Did you know that if you pay all of your bills off they call you a "deadbeat" in the credit world? I love Dave Ramsey; he changed our lives and financial future, but now we have zero credit. How stupid is that? Pay your bills off, banks hate you, Don't pay your bills, banks love you? Dumb.) So we have decided to purchase a home that meets our needs, and wait on the Lord's timing to build our dream home. We put an offer in on a house that does what we need it to, and will be a comfortable place for our children to grow and play. (We don't know if we got it yet. I hope we do, but if not I'm sure it's for a reason.) The home we put an offer in on needs a little TLC (oh thank the Lord for  projects! Finally! It is so hard for me to be a renter because I can't do anything to make our home better.) but of course, that is what I love to do. So, if we do get the house I will be updating with before and after pictures hopefully. 
None of these compromises has actually gone into effect yet, but just thinking about them takes a weight off my shoulders.

1 comment:

Jolana said...

you are right. comprises has both good and bad things. So happy to hear that you found a little private school that you like and can afford for the girls. It's funny how our priorites change. We both went to public school but something changes when you start to have your own kids and don't want them to go down that road like you did growing up. We are struggling trying to find a pre-school in our area that we want our kids to go to. Good luck! You will get your house. All in God's timing and plans that he has for you. Miss you a ton.